Family & Friends
Families, friends, and community members are often the front line for those experiencing suicidal thoughts or distress. Here are strategies accessible to people outside of clinical settings who would like to know what they can do to possibly save the life of their loved one.
*The strategies provided serve as a reminder to those who have been a part of Dr. Siegelman's lectures and are not a replacement for seeking professional help either from him or another licensed clinician and suicide prevention specialist. For questions, reach out and in case of an emergency, contact local emergency services.
1. Focus on Connection, Not Solutions
Approach the person with genuine interest, empathy, and a desire to truly understand their experience. Rather than rushing to provide solutions, take the time to listen deeply and connect. Slow down and be present.
2. Reframe Suicide as a Response to Pain
Recognize that suicidal thoughts arise from intense psychological pain. By understanding this, you can address the root causes more compassionately, helping individuals feel seen and supported.
3. Use Active Listening and Calibrated Questions
Engage in active listening and ask thoughtful, calibrated questions. These techniques build trust, encourage openness, and help reveal deeper layers of the person’s experience, providing a safe space for them to share.
4. Ask Directly About Suicide
Addressing suicide openly is safe and essential. Discussing it directly reduces stigma, validates their feelings, and provides relief through open dialogue. Asking directly can show individuals they are not alone in their struggle.
5. Safety Planning and Resource Awareness
Work collaboratively to create a safety plan when appropriate. Include steps to limit access to harmful means and ensure emergency resources are accessible. Preparing in this way provides reassurance and tangible support for navigating difficult times.